"You know, it's a parent's natural instinct to want to talk to them. Like, what's wrong, what's wrong talk to us?"
"I think it's important for me to remember to have that same expectation of communication for myself towards the kids too."
"You know, the internet and social media. There's just so much information. coming in."
"We want to teach her that she can't just physically express her frustration."
"That translates to love for others as s well her confidence in herself and her love for herself."
"Like as soon as our adrenaline is activated or cortisol spikes. It's really hard to be a respectful parent."
"And I think I've been because I have to spend so much time resting. I've like been training for this my whole life."
"Verbal redirection is not all that effective when they're flooded."
"And his sensory needs became more than just touching me. Then it became much harder."
"And I guess it's giving myself enough compassion to believe that that is louder deep in him than the...
"Where did it come from? Do they come from the expectations that my parents had about me?"
"That mistakes are not a reflection of my character. "
"They're not giving us a hard time. They're having a hard time themselves."
"So, mom guilt is always there. But what do you do with that mom guilt?"
"And that's the fruit of the work. I've been doing with him for the last five years. "
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"They are going to feel, even if they don't know consciously, they're going to feel you're not at peace with this and ready to say sorry for it."
"I've done all the things, it doesn't matter, he doesn't care about my respectful parenting. He's going to have a meltdown no matter what."
"Okay, and my energy's where, you know, I'm winding down. I got five more minutes left in me. And then I'm going to go have some me time."
"I'm just supposed to like, keep getting up every day, keep taking my kids to school."
"It was a human guttural reaction from a black parent surrounded by non-Black families."
"The things we have to think about, that being one of maybe like five Brown families in a school of probably 800 families."
"And it got to the point, I'm a yeller...ugh, I'm a yeller. I said it, and I'll own it, and I'm working on it"
"Because if you push too hard, it's very different than your friend pushing too hard."
"While I don't always see the behavior immediately, the times that I do are just really cool."
You're listening to Voices of Your Village. This is episode 205. In this episode, we're diving into coping tools. We're looking at coping mechanisms versus coping strategies. I'll go into what the difference between these two are, and how we can support kiddos in building coping strategies. So they don't just have a toolbox full of mechanisms to numb their emotions. And instead it can work toward processing their emotions and regulating their nervous system. This is one of the most crucial steps in emotion processing. It's knowing how to regulate our nervous system. Stay tuned because next week we are opening up our free one week self-regulation...
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