When your child says “I hate you!” it can really hit a nerve. You might find yourself getting defensive (“How could you say that to me? I do everything for you!”). You might feel the urge to assert control over the situation (“You’re not going to speak to me like that!”). Narratives you hold around obedience and respect may come up and you may have fears that you aren’t raising a respectful child.

Here’s the thing: a child's hurtful words often come from a place of frustration or lost control. While adults use "hate" as a permanent feeling, children use it fleetingly to express a big emotion. 

The key to connecting with your child...

00:00:01    Alyssa

You're listening to episode five of our School and Childcare Transition series. In this episode, we're going to chat about the routines and what to expect once this is underway. Note, there will be a lot of messiness, and we are here for it. We've got you. All right, let's dive in. 

00:00:27    Alyssa

Welcome to Voices of Your Village, a place where parents, caregivers, teachers and experts come to support one another on this wild ride of raising tiny humans. We combined decades of experience with the latest research to create the modern parenting village. Let's dive into honest conversation about real parenting challenges, so it doesn't...

00:00:00    Alyssa

You're listening to episode four of our School and Childcare Transition series. In this episode, we're going to dive into you, the adult. How do you take care of your nervous system as you're doing this stuff with kids? It's hard, and it's draining to hold space for somebody else. So what does this look like for you? All right, let's dive in. 

00:00:27    Alyssa

Welcome to Voices of Your Village, a place where parents, caregivers, teachers and experts come to support one another on this wild ride of raising tiny humans. We combined decades of experience with the latest research to create the modern parenting village. Let's dive into...

You're listening to episode three of our podcast series on Childcare and School Transitions. In this episode, we're going to talk about when to talk about this, when to let them know that it's coming, and what to do if some anxiety comes up around it. Alright, let's dive in.

00:00:24    Alyssa

Welcome to Voices of Your Village, a place where parents, caregivers, teachers and experts come to support one another on this wild ride of raising tiny humans. We combined decades of experience with the latest research to create the modern parenting village. Let's dive into honest conversation about real parenting challenges, so it doesn't have to be this hard. I'm your host,...

00:00:00    Alyssa

You're listening to episode two of our School and Child Care transition series. In this episode, we're going to get down and dirty with these emotions. How to support the tiny humans big emotions. How to validate and acknowledge and hold space for and build coping strategies for them to use, both leading up to and then in the moments of the transition and throughout the day. This is the work. It is messy and gnarly, and you don't have to do it alone. We're here to help you. All right, folks, let's dive in. 

00:00:36    Alyssa

Welcome to Voices of Your Village, a place where parents, caregivers, teachers and experts come to support one...

00:00:00    Alyssa

Welcome to episode one of School and Childcare Transitions. Going into a new classroom or starting a new school is a huge transition with a new attachment figure somebody that is going to be in charge of keeping them safe all day long on who they have to get to know that they don't know yet. It's a big deal, and I'm here to guide you through this. We have five short episodes that will walk you through different steps to take to help this transition be as seamless and emotionally supportive as possible. Buckle up here, folks. All right, let's dive into episode one. 

00:00:42    Alyssa

Welcome to Voices of Your Village, a place where...

00:00:03    Nao

"You know, it's a parent's natural instinct to want to talk to them. Like, what's wrong, what's wrong talk to us?" 

00:00:14    Nao

"I think it's important for me to remember to have that same expectation of communication for myself towards the kids too." 

00:00:25    Nao

"You know, the internet and social media. There's just so much information.  coming in." 

00:00:34    Nao

"We want to teach her that she can't just physically express her frustration."

00:00:42    Nao

"That translates to love for others as s well  her confidence in herself and her love for herself."

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00:00:04    Jessica

"Like as soon as our adrenaline is activated or cortisol spikes. It's really hard to be a respectful parent." 

00:00:16    Jessica

"And I think I've been because I have to spend so much time resting. I've like been training for this my whole life." 

00:00:26    Jessica

"Verbal redirection is not all that effective when they're flooded." 

00:00:33    Jessica

"And his sensory needs became more than just touching me. Then it became much harder." 

00:00:42    Jessica

"And I guess it's giving myself enough compassion to believe that that is louder deep in him than the...

00:00:04    Marcela

"Where did it come from? Do they come from the expectations that my parents had about me?"

00:00:15    Marcela

"That mistakes are not a reflection of my character. "

00:00:27    Marcela

"They're not giving us a hard time. They're having a hard time themselves." 

00:00:36    Marcela

"So, mom guilt is always there. But what do you do with that mom guilt?" 

00:00:43    Marcela

"And that's the fruit of the work. I've been doing with him for the last five years. "

00:00:55    Alyssa

Hey there. I'm Alyssa Blask Campbell. I'm a mom with a Master's degree in Early...

00:00:02    Trystan

"They are going to feel, even if they don't know consciously, they're going to feel you're not at peace with this and ready to say sorry for it."

00:00:14    Trystan

"I've done all the things, it doesn't matter, he doesn't care about my respectful parenting. He's going to have a meltdown no matter what." 

00:00:25    Trystan

"Okay, and my energy's where, you know, I'm winding down. I got five more minutes left in me. And then I'm going to go have some me time."

00:00:35    Trystan

"I'm just supposed to like, keep getting up every day, keep taking my kids to school." 

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