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How to respond instead of spanking

 

 

I’ve had a lot of people from our village reach out to me about the sometimes taboo subject of spanking, so I decided to do an episode on it, and asked the villagers for their questions on this. 

First and foremost, I’ve never met anybody who had other tools in their toolbox besides spanking who still felt like spanking was the best way to handle a situation. I think spanking happens when someone is at their wit's end and they don’t know what else to do. If you have found yourself in this position, please remember: this is a shame-free, guilt-free zone, and I’m not here to make you feel either of those things. 

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Q&A Series: Coping

 

 

Today we kick off our Q&A Series with April, who has been an active member in our Seed village for about two years. April lives in Amarillo, Texas with her husband and three-year-old daughter, Quinn. 

April admits that she has a hard time letting her daughter feel hard emotions for an extended period of time. She wonders when to let her have a hard feeling, how long to let her have that hard feeling, and how long to allow her daughter to engage with a coping mechanism before implementing a coping strategy. 

First, we want to pay attention to what it looks like when we are turning to coping strategies versus coping mechanisms. When we turn to a strategy, the...

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What a middle-schooler would like you to know about emotions, with Elijah

 

 

I’m so jazzed about this episode of Voices of Your Village because I got to sit down and chat with probably one of the most emotionally intelligent 11-year-olds you’ll ever meet, Elijah. His mom Danielle allowed us to share on Instagram and Facebook an exchange she and Elijah had in which she emotion coached him through a tough situation, and basically the response was that Danielle is serious #momgoals and Elijah is serious #11yearoldgoals. I wanted to chat with Elijah about being a soon-to-be middle school kid - what it’s like and how to navigate all of the hard stuff surrounding this unique time in life. We chatted about the difficulties of middle...

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Sharing

 

 

There are generally two schools of thought in regards to sharing, and they tend to be on opposite ends of the spectrum. One end is the belief that what’s mine is mine, and what’s yours is yours, and my kiddos don’t need to share, while the other end is the belief that everybody takes turns and everybody shares. I believe in finding a middle ground here. Over the years, I’ve worked with thousands of kiddos, and I’ve noticed some trends when it comes to sharing. 

 

Some kiddos actually really like to share and offer all on their own because it brings them joy. So, what is it about these kiddos that leads to a desire for collaborative...

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Building a relationship of trust with kids

 

 

As parents and caregivers, one of our goals should be for our tiny humans to trust us - trust us to keep them safe and trust us to do what we say we’re going to do - and for us to trust them to hold up their end of the bargain. You may think this happens in the big moments - them coming to you with a big secret or confiding in you - but trust is actually built in the smaller moments, like keeping a promise. And it’s a two-way street - I expect the tiny humans to do what they say they’re going to do, too. There will be times when we let each other down because that’s just life - but more often than not, we need to follow through.

I want the tiny...

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Teaching kiddos to regulate their emotions

 

 

On this episode of Voices of Your Village, I got to hang out with my pal Kristie on her Pre-K Teach and Play Podcast. An accomplished author, sought-after consultant, and educator’s educator, Dr. Kristie Pretti-Frontczak spent 16 years as a tenured professor at Kent State University before leaving to lead a {r}evolution in early care and education. Through comprehensive classes, thought-provoking keynotes, and practical resources, she’s guiding educational professionals toward developing their emotional intelligence, reclaiming children’s right to learn through play, and reimagining more inclusive classrooms. We got to dive into the topic of teaching...

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How to emotion coach for emotion processing, with Lauren Stauble

 


In this week’s episode, I was jazzed to connect with the co-creator of our CEP method, Lauren Stauble. Lauren stumbled into early childhood development when she took a job working in an infant room after graduating with a studio art degree. She was surprised to find that early childhood development was something that she grew to be extremely passionate about and ultimately decided to further her education and make a career of it. She is particularly passionate about preschoolers, social justice, and emotional justice.

Lauren approached me about writing our book when we realized we were doing something different in the world of emotional processing. Our CEP method is the...

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How to respond to hitting, kicking, biting, spitting!

 


I this week’s episode I dove into challenging behaviors like hitting, kicking, and biting. When we see these behaviors in our tiny humans it can spark feelings of shame, disappointment, and embarrassment, especially if it’s happening in public. When we can work through our own feelings about the situation, we can better serve our kiddos. Rather than reacting, we can take the time to respond in a way that helps our kiddo to process the emotion behind the behavior. 

It is developmentally normal for a tiny human to react to a big emotion by using their bodies when they don’t know what else to do with that feeling. When your kiddo hits or bites another kiddo,...

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How to respond to "you're stupid" and other frustrating kid phrases

 

 

First things first, it’s our first birthday!! One year ago we launched Voices of Your Village podcast and my heart couldn’t be fuller with how beautifully it has grown. Thank YOU for being on this journey with us. In this week’s episode of Voices of Your Village I’m diving into “you’re stupid” and other kid phrases that can be frustrating to hear as adults. And the first thing I’m chatting about is making sure that tiny humans do not feel responsible for our emotions because they’re not. We are in charge of processing our own emotions and our kiddos need to know that whatever they are bringing to the table, we can handle...

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Raising empathetic humans, with Logan Blask

 

This week I was thrilled to chat with my incredible sister-in-law Logan Blask (again)! You may remember her from episode 26, our most downloaded episode, where we dove into raising emotionally intelligent kiddos. This week we are diving into empathy and how to model and instill empathy in our tiny humans.

Sibling rivalry. Logan shared that her kids are totally allowed and encouraged to disagree, have their own opinions, thoughts, etc. However, physical aggression has been a hard no from the start. They have a family guideline of “hugs, handshakes, and high fives” as appropriate physical touch. When the twins have a disagreement, they are expected to talk it out and...

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