"Literally our only job to keep them off the bench. The only thing we have to do, the only requirement is practice. That's it."
"Even though I am very intentional about, not projecting that. It still comes up."
"Something's up and we're going to have to, we would be better trying to work that out in practice, then trying to do it right now."
"Slowly going down that emotional ladder with her. She was slowly coming down. But in my mind, I was like, I'm tired as hell."
"We want to be...
"Like as soon as our adrenaline is activated or cortisol spikes. It's really hard to be a respectful parent."
"And I think I've been because I have to spend so much time resting. I've like been training for this my whole life."
"Verbal redirection is not all that effective when they're flooded."
"And his sensory needs became more than just touching me. Then it became much harder."
"And I guess it's giving myself enough compassion to believe that that is louder deep in him than the...
"Where did it come from? Do they come from the expectations that my parents had about me?"
"That mistakes are not a reflection of my character. "
"They're not giving us a hard time. They're having a hard time themselves."
"So, mom guilt is always there. But what do you do with that mom guilt?"
"And that's the fruit of the work. I've been doing with him for the last five years. "
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"They are going to feel, even if they don't know consciously, they're going to feel you're not at peace with this and ready to say sorry for it."
"I've done all the things, it doesn't matter, he doesn't care about my respectful parenting. He's going to have a meltdown no matter what."
"Okay, and my energy's where, you know, I'm winding down. I got five more minutes left in me. And then I'm going to go have some me time."
"I'm just supposed to like, keep getting up every day, keep taking my kids to school."
"It was a human guttural reaction from a black parent surrounded by non-Black families."
"The things we have to think about, that being one of maybe like five Brown families in a school of probably 800 families."
"And it got to the point, I'm a yeller...ugh, I'm a yeller. I said it, and I'll own it, and I'm working on it"
"Because if you push too hard, it's very different than your friend pushing too hard."
"While I don't always see the behavior immediately, the times that I do are just really cool."
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